November 2 and November 3 - Monday and Tuesday
Two consecutive eves - 6-9pm | Bend, Oregon | $99 / $120
Join for one day or both
RELATIONAL LITERACY
A two-night experiential intensive in conscious relationship.
A two-night experiential intensive in conscious relationship.
Relational Literacy is the practice of bringing increasing consciousness, self-contact, and choice into the way we relate.
It is the capacity to remain in relationship with ourselves while we are in relationship with another—to notice what is happening within us, reveal our experience honestly, become curious about the beliefs and meanings shaping what we perceive, discern what is actually true for us, and choose how we want to participate from there.
Because relationship asks us to hold something beautifully complex:
I am having a real experience.
You are having a real experience.
Neither of us has to disappear for both to exist.
Relational Literacy develops our capacity to meet that complexity with greater curiosity, humility, differentiation, authorship, and choice.
These are human capacities—not capacities specific to romantic relationship. They shape the way we meet partnership, parenting, family, friendship, work, community – anywhere one self encounters another.
Most of us were never explicitly taught how to do this.
We learned ways of preserving connection, often at the expense of ourselves.
We learned to protect identity, often at the expense of the bond.
We learned to avoid pain, often at the expense of both ourselves and the bond.
And we learned to make sense of what happened to us through stories that aren't always inclusive of the deepest, most whole truth and information available to us.
These strategies are deeply human. And they can become so automatic that we move from experience → interpretation → reaction without ever realizing how much happened in between.
Relational Literacy creates more space in that sequence.
More consciousness.
More capacity.
More choice.
NOTICE → SHARE → INQUIRE → OWN → REPAIR
A space to immerse and learn is forming now. Select your desire & availability below:
Each evening is designed to stand on its own. Attend one that speaks to you, or join us for both to experience the full Relational Literacy arc
❋ SELF-CONTACT Relationship begins before another person enters the room. We practice noticing sensation, emotion, activation, impulse and protection before interpretation takes over.
❋ EXPRESSIONEmotion is not only something to understand. Through sound, movement, breath and honest expression, we create greater capacity to remain in relationship with what we feel.
❋ CONSCIOUS INQUIRYWe become curious about the beliefs, narratives, meanings and identities shaping our perception—loosening certainty enough for discovery and discernment to become possible.
❋ AUTHORSHIPWe practice owning what is ours without collapsing into self-blame or making another person responsible for our internal world. From greater consciousness comes greater choice.
THE CONTAINER
One Monday evening and one Tuesday evening · 6:00–9pm
November 2 & November 3 · Bend, Oregon
6 live hours together (join for both nights or for a single night - option to join for either one of the individual sessions or for both sessions)
Each evening will cover different material so if both sessions are attended, you will experience something different each night.
LIVE EXPERIENCE
Six hours of facilitated teaching, experiential practice, somatic and emotional exploration, relational practice, reflection and integration.
INTEGRATION RESOURCES
You'll receive a small collection of practical resources designed to help you bring the work into your actual life—including the Relational Literacy Continuum, a somatic self-contact map, and an inquiry guide for moving from activation toward discernment and conscious choice.
BETWEEN OUR GATHERINGS
A private Telegram space will support connection, reflection, integration prompts, and shared resources throughout the cohort. The virtual space will remain accessible our final gathering; participants are welcome to keep the group open for continued peer connection afterward.
Founding Cohort Tuition: $120 / $99 (or $60 / $49.50 for a single session)
A limited number of supported-access spaces are available for women for whom full tuition would be a barrier to participation. No explanation or justification of financial circumstances is required.
REGISTER:
Join Us HERE for Both Evenings
Join Us HERE for Eve 1, Monday
Join Us HERE for Eve 2, Tuesday
Can I remain in relationship with myself
while I am in relationship with you?
Can I remain home inside myself while another human being remains fully themselves?
THE RELATIONAL LITERACY CONTINUUM
From Reaction to Conscious Relationship
Relational Literacy isn't about becoming perfectly calm, never getting triggered, or learning the right words to say.
It's about developing capacities that create more consciousness—and therefore more choice—inside relationship.
Inquiry doesn't ask us to explain away impact, mistrust our experience, or decide that everything we feel is projection. It helps us become intimate enough with our experience to discern the information it contains: patterned activation, present-day impact or harm, genuine values misalignment—or, often, more than one thing at once.
Self-responsibility is not self-blame. Authorship does not require us to deny impact.
NOTICEWhat am I feeling and experiencing?
SHARECan I honestly share my experience with another?
INQUIREWhat meaning am I making?
What beliefs are shaping this interpretation?
OWNWhat is mine to own?
REPAIRYour experience is valid. Mine is too.
How do we move forward together?
TWO EVENINGS OF PRACTICE
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Monday, November 2 · 6–9pm
Self-awareness, self-contact, emotional and nervous-system literacy. We’ll practice noticing experience before narrative takes over, revealing what is happening within us, and becoming curious about the beliefs, meanings and identities shaping what we perceive. Practiced through dialogue, meditation, somatic aspecting.
NOTICE → SHARE → INQUIRE -
Tuesday, November 3 · 6–9pm
Accountability, authorship, values, discernment, differentiation and repair. We’ll practice recognizing what is ours to own, what isn’t, how to remain ourselves in relationship with another, and how greater consciousness creates greater possibility for choice, mutuality and repair. Practiced through dialogue, meditation, core values identification, somatic aspecting.
OWN → REPAIR
Something in you saying yes?
The Relational Literacy immersion is intentionally two back to back days. When we spend longer durations, and longer durations consecutively, we can increase the possibility for depth and integration.
If this work feels alive or relevant to you, please join us for one or both evenings. Each will be standalone and supportive in their own right. For the deepest leverage, join for both evenings.